Brothers

They're brothers, ages 10 and 7.  They share a bedroom, a love for soccer, a penchant for skateboarding, and a tendency toward violence of the brotherly kind.  They are mortal enemies and the best of friends, the pendulum often swinging from friend to enemy and back to friend again within 60 seconds.

They're both athletic dynamos.  The older of the two is lean, small, and lightning-fast.  The younger is tall, thick, and strong as an ox. 

Last night, after an especially vigorous session of carpet wrestling, I heard them pause, breathless, to formulate impressive plans.  They determined that they would take the professional soccer world by storm someday, two feisty brothers who would team up to strike fear in opponents.  The oldest would be the speedy, agile Scorer Of Many Goals.  The youngest would be the brick-wall goalie around whom no ball would fly.

Then they went back to the floor for more wrestling, until I went in to interrupt and tell them it was time to head to bed.  We sat on the couch, mom in the middle, for bedtime prayers.  Their sweaty, smelly heads leaned in on my shoulders.  They were still out of breath.  It was the first moment of quiet that room had seen in hours.

The oldest said his prayer, and then I said mine.  And then the youngest, in a voice thick with sincerity, said softly, "Thank you, God, that my brother and I enjoy each other."

I caught my breath.  Yes, thank you, I thought.  Then--I couldn't help it--I peeked open my eyes at the two boys, still sitting at my side.  Something settled over them. 

They were struck by the moment, too. 

The oldest looked over at his little brother, affection unmistakably written on his face.  He gently, quietly nudged him with his elbow.  The youngest returned the glance, and the nudge. 

There was a perfect pause.

And then, at exactly the same moment, they erupted into grunts and laughter, diving for each other and heading straight for the carpet.  I think the .7 miliseconds of tenderness was all they could bear. 

I watched them, smiling, observing to myself that the moment had surely passed.

Or had it?  I'm inclined to think--to hope--that a moment like that settles deeply in the hearts of two sweaty boys.  It surely settles deeply in the heart of their mother. 

Comments

[TransitionGirl]

siblings are one of the best friends one can have... and worst enemies. So glad that your boys can appreciate their deep friendship since young, i'm sure when they grow up, they will be the best of brothers, supporting, teasing, wrestling (boys will still be boys) and loving each other. so precious.

[Heather]

I feel more hope for our troubled world knowing you are sending those boys out into it... thanks.

[Stretch Mark Mama]

Sniff sniff sniff! My boys (7, 4) act just like that, are built just like that, and love/hate each other with the same level of intensity. I see them together and I can't imagine a more perfect gift than who they are to each other.

[Mrs. Q]

Aww...how cute!

[Brenda]

My kids (boy and girl) have always gotten along fabulously except for a little bump at 12 and 15. Sibling love is one of the best gifts our kids can give us. Its unity, Christs love manifested and hope for the future.

[Michelle]

That is just incredible sweet. What a perfect reflection of the core values and The Lord's love that they are filled with in your home.

I have a slew of boys and although they have their moments....(and believe me....those are some intense "moments"!!)...there is a unity that nothing in this world will never come between them.

Enjoy every moment...you are a great mama!

Peace~
*~Michelle~*

[Kim]

Oh I love those little moments and the fact that you got to witness one was great!!! My boys are 3 years apart as well and when they happen to have those "moments" I treasure them in my heart forever.
Big hugs.
Kim

[Ali]

Precious.

[Everything Moms]

What a beautiful moment! I would have never thought that one of the best things about being a mama was to see my children love each other...

[On the Eastern Journey]

Oh my word. This post made me cry. Thanks for sharing.

[Michaela]

My boys are 5 and 4, and so far, so good. What a neat moment for your boys last night. I got goose bumps reading your post. Thanks!

[April]

This is why I love reading your blog first thing in the morning. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful moment.

[Ann @ Holy Experience]

Isn't love the greatest reward for these mothering days?

[jubilee]

Someone once said that the bond between siblings is greater even than the bond between mother and child. After a sweet post like this, I am inclined to believe it.

The closest my two boys have gotten to an admission of this sort is when my oldest walks in the door from a long day at school and my youngest jumps up and down screaming in excitement that his "brudder" is home!

[Tara]

Isn't that the best!? Growing up I did not have good sibling relationships and my husband is an only child so he didn't have a clue. When we were pregnant with our first that is one thing that I remember praying earnestly for, good sibling relationships with future children. And you know what? God has answered those prayers. My boys and their sister are the best sibs in the world. It's so great.

[Robyn (3girlsmom)]

Oh my goodness did you not just bawl your eyes out? I mean, the "that is the sweetest thing I've ever seen" kind of bawl.
My youngest 2 girls, who are 16 months apart from each other, are just getting old enough to prefer each other over anyone else. They're 3 & 2. I know my time will come when they are hitting each other with hairbrushes and flat irons. But right now they are pure giddy when one has been away and they see each other for the first time. It's awesome.

[Nikki]

That is awesome. I hope one day my two oldest boys will have that kind of affection towards each other.

[Lindsay]

okay that story was to sweet! I pray that my son will have a relationship like that someday :-)

[Alice]

Incredibly sweet. I have a 5 yr old and 2 yr old who enjoy each other completely now. I hope when they are your boys age they still do.

[Julie at Elisharose]

Oh my heavenly days. That is as sweet as it gets.

[rrmama]

Love it! I can only hope my boys feel the say way towards one another as they get older.

[Amy]

That just brought tears to my eyes!!!

[Lazy Mom Leslie]

Thank you.

[Carrie]

aww, that brought tears to my eyes!!!!! I love it when kids are so tender, it reminds me WHY Jesus told us to be like the children...

[Loretta]

Beautiful. I am finally starting to see glimmers of that from my boys. (In between the times they declare to eachother "I'm not your friend right now...I'm only your friend on Tuesdays.")

[Lydia]

Thank you so much for sharing this! I am due in June with my second boy, they will be not quite 4 years apart. I hope they have will have the same relationship as your boys do. I would love to read a post about how to raise boys, if you feel up to it in the near future. :) Any help I can get in that department would be wonderful.

[Trixie]

How beautiful,thank you for sharing. My sisters and I were mortal enemies and best friends. I remember one time I was so angry with them that I asked my mom if I didn't have to see them ever once I was a grown up.

She smiled and said I would never, ever have to see them once I was a grown up. Now, my sisters are my closest friends (with none of the mortal enemy stuff) and I can't imagine not seeing them!

Take Care,

Trixie
http://farmhomelife.blogspot.com/

[Michelle]

Thank you for sharing such a precious moment.
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[Jen]

I have two boys and they sound much like yours. I'm thankful for them and that they are friends as well as sparring partners.
Thanks for a great post, reminding us to pause and be grateful.

[Melanie]

Boys express their love in sweat like girls express their love in stickers.

Just lovely!

[Linda Sue]

Wonderful "moment" - my older brother and I were often at odds when we were kids - I was the spoiled baby and he felt wronged - he was the indulged big brother and got to do everything I couldn't do. Now we are in our 60's (holy moley that sounds old!) and there is no more staunch friend/ally on earth than my brother.

[Rachel]

*tear* What are you doing to me? I've been spending hours a day trying to justify having only one child and you shattered my resolve in three minutes.

Thanks for sharing such a beautiful tender moment!

[Ronda]

I love it. You nailed it! It's the perfect description of brotherly love in the home.

[Holli T.]

What a beautiful prayer, and answer to your prayers!

Holli T.

[Adventures In Babywearing]

Oh I've got my bottom lip out. So precious.

Steph

[Carrie]

Wow, that's wonderful. :)

[Michele]

I would have bawled my eyes out for days. Mine are 12, 11 and 8. The 12 yr old is crazy over the 8 yr. old. Kisses his head. Middle one is stuck in the middle but oh so sweet.

[Amber@Run-a-Muck]

You're giving me hope. I just lost some tears into a muffin on this one.

[Linda]

It was right about the time my two boys were exactly those ages that my heart gently asked the Father to please freeze time for just a while.
Unfortunately it didn't happen and they are now grown men with little children of their own. Treasure these moments Shannon. They are so precious. Sometimes I look at these fine young men with little ones in their arms and wonder for a brief moment how it could possibly be. Where did the years go?

[Mary @ Giving Up On Perfect]

Wow - what a blessing! To have that affection AND to recognize it! A double blessing.

[AMi]

Oh my goodness, thank you for that thought. My boys, 5 1/2 and 4 and 4, always fight, yet I know they love each other. One day, they'll know it, too.

[Luke Holzmann]

Wow.

Brought tears to my eyes and gave me a couple goosebumps. That's strong stuff you're wielding there!

~Luke

[ran]

That brought tears to my eyes - tears of memory. I have those two sweaty boys, too. But my boys are now 28 and 26. They were the same wrestling, snarling/next minute arm over their shoulders, defending each other, brother lovers. Now they are best friends, living in the same town. They see each other almost daily, play ball together, and THANKFULLY, have loving wives that love each other, and love the fact that their husbands are truly best friends. I have often wanted to peek at their cell phones, just to see how often they call or text each other. It is many times a day; just a "did you see the score of the game?" kind of thing.

It makes a mama so proud to know that they continue to weather the storms together.

[Jamie]

This is a great encouragement to a mom of a 2 yr. old and 7 month old! I know the hard times when they are so little will be so worth it!

[MM]

Shannon,

I'm 20 weeks pregnant with our 2nd miracle. My firstborn will be 22 months when this one comes along. And THIS, your post, is exactly what I hope for them! My husband was the only boy and I was the only girl. So we're both looking forward to our boys growing up together with a close knit relationship, the good, bad, and ugly.

MM

[amanda]

awww!!!! i only wish we could have a sibling for our girl....

[Jennifer L.]

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing!

[Mary Kay]

Oh my word. Send that it in for publication.

Beautiful, perfect.

[CarolinaMama]

So very sweet. You articulate it well. Of course, we fully relate. And I've learned to let them wrestle before bedtime. Then do they sack out?!

[KayKay]

What a beautiful post. It does settle in. I know it does.

[AprilMay]

Oh, that was beautiful! Thank you for sharing about the softer side of boys. :)

[Jesica]

I just got a little weepy. Thanks for the reminder of the tenderness that lies beneath those stinky boy exteriors.

[Kathleen]

Brought tears to my eyes. My two boys are 6 and 8 and are also the best of friends and the best of enemies. In a moment of insincere hatred the other day, my 8yo said, "I wish Jacob wasn't in this family." That's when his dad and I started listing all of the things he enjoys with his brother by his side. What would life be without him? Terribly sad. There wasn't as tender of a moment as you witnessed between your boys, but at least he got the point.

[Jamie]

What a great story. It brought tears to my eyes and I only hope that my 3 girls will feel the same way about each other. Thanks for sharing.

[Jackie]

This gave me goosebumps! I hope that my son has a sibling someday that he enjoys as much as your boys enjoy each other.

[Kelly @ Love Well]

Speaking as a sister to two brothers, I think it does settle.

My brothers are six years apart in age and they fought CONSTANTLY growing up. My Mom, who grew up as an only child, was terrified our family would be fractured forever. But then, they grew into adults, and now they are great friends. Those little moments of kindred spirits are very sticky.

[Laura@HeavenlyHomeamakers]

As the mother of four sweaty brothers...who wrestle and plot their own soccer "goals" for the future...I loved this post! Those .7 miliseconds of tenderness are priceless.

[mombrud]

Thank you for seeing my boys even more clearly than I can sometimes. Mine are 8 and 6.

[BlueCastle]

Beautifully written and well-said. My boys are the same way. They would wrestle each other all day. I don't understand it, but it's their favorite activity.

[Jeff Shaw]

That's a great tribute. I think kids (especially boys) are much more outwardly tender than they used to be, when I was a terror - 40 someodd years ago.

That's a good thing.

P.S. If you let them read this blog post, you'll never hear that kind of love again! :)

[LifeAtTheCircus]

Beautiful post, brought tears to my eyes. Each night when I pray for my kids I pray that the Lord would call them to Himself, that they would from a young age have a passion and hunger for Him and I also pray that the 3 of them would be life long friends. That is my mothers prayer.

[Sarah W]

Wow, what a sweet story. I loved reading it! Those tender moments are ones we only could have dreamed of before children (or in the midst of conflict LOL)
If its any encouragement, my husband and his brother grew up like that....best friends, enemies, best friends. And to this day, they are best friends. They still wrestle....at 6'6" and 6'4" and each 280 pounds, it is quite a sight....and dangerous for anyone in the same hemisphere.....but such a sweet testimony of two brothers who are best friends.

If yours are best friends now, it will only get better with age!!!

[nottryingforaboy]

Oh, that brought tears to my eyes. How sweet of your youngest. My dream is for my three girls to be good friends. My one sister and I went through many years- even as adults- of not getting along. I hope my kids are different.

[Tami]

Oh, Shannon! Thanks for giving me a peek into what (I hope) is the future with our two boys, who are the same age difference as your two. I heard my two little ones playing together in the other room yesterday and those playful giggles just warmed the cockles of my heart!!! God is so good.

[Kimberly]

As a mother of sweaty, frienemy brothers myself, I was so touched by this post. Had to hold back the tears (sniffle). Great post, thank you for sharing.

[Cherissa]

This really brought tears to my eyes. Don't you think that God feels that same way when he sees His children loving and enjoying each other?

This brought a sweet moment to my morning. Thank you, Shannon!

[Jessica]

So glad to hear that there can be some peace. My boys are 3 and 1 and some days I feel so bad for the little one getting "taken out" so often by the older one. I just pray that someday I may experience the love that my boys will have for each other. Thanks so much for sharing that. It was a blessing to my heart. Thanks!!

[JanMary, N Ireland]

Precious....

Gives me hope :)

[Lizz @ Yes, and So is My Heart]

So very sweet! It makes me wish my boy had a brother in addition to his two sisters.

[Becky]

Do I need to prepare my mind (and my house) for carpet wrestling in several years? I am not sure this mom can handle that very well. : )

[TallyMichelle]

Oh, that brought tears to my eyes. Our first is 2, and will be a month shy of three when our second arrives. I'm hoping for another boy, and am praying that they will love and enjoy each other like yours do. What an amazing moment you were able to share!

[Lysa TerKeurst]

Precious post. One to print off and keep tucked in a book somewhere with pictures of those two sweaty boys.

[Lorie]

They'll be bestest buddies forever!

[Amy]

Well, that was excellent. My same prayer for my toddlers.
Just excellent.
Amy

[Stacy Quarty]

I guess these moments are much more rare between boys. I wouldn't really know- I have 2 girls. A great post.

[Amy @ Muddy Boots]

This is my first time commenting on your blog (I think... I lose track), but that post had my chin quivering by the end.

Am I hormonal or what??

I have three boys (so far) and one of my greatest prayers for them is that they will always be friends.

[MommyAmy]

Such a sweet story! Brought tears to my eyes. :)

[Misty]

What a wonderful moment to have shared with your boys! I long to have had those tender moments with my sisters but we didn't grow up in a family learning about family bonds. Instead I am grateful to be blessed with the love of a man (and his amazing family) who have accepted and taught me - so that I can share that kind of connection with my own family. And a beautiful son that no doubt knows the love of his mother is beyond her words or actions.

Thank you, Lord, for my many, many blessings!

[Angie]

My stars... I am bawling. What a tender, dear post. I pray my boys will share that love for each other through life!

[Minnesotamom]

Yep, crying. That's me.

[Allie]

Wow! Thank you for sharing that. You painted such a vivid picture of love residing in your boys hearts! And it's a love they have for each other. When they are adults they will be very active in each others lives and I think that is so important! Bless you and your family!

[Marianne]

I always tell my boys (5 & 3) that brothers are forever. Luckily, my husband's brother lives very close so they get to see their dad and his big brother proving that over and over.

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Have a wonderful day!

[Hope]

My kids are like that. They are so funny..they'll get tired of each other, and then the moment one is out of the house, the other will be asking when is "so and so" going to be home cause they're board!

[Kate]

That is so sweet. =)

~Kate
"Which Proverbs 14:1 Woman?"
http://proverbs14-1.blogspot.com

[little i]

You mean there's hope? My two youngest boys seem to be fighting, not wrestling, all the time! They occasionally have their sweet moments. i'm hoping for more of those!

[patois]

Kids of an age, God bless 'em.

[Jenn Calling Home]

That's so sweet. I love those special moments between siblings. What a blessing!

[Kim]

Now that is cinematic gold right there!

[Faerylandmom]

After a day of sibling rivalry, I really needed that. :-)

[Kelly]

what a tremendous memory!

[Jen]

What a sweet story! I love it!

[Julie From Inmates]

Beautiful. My boys are 6 and 3. They enjoy eachother too [about 1/2 the time]. I REALLY enjoyed this post!

[Jenn]

I am daily thankful for a similar blessing at my house - my 2 boys are the best of friends! Never for a moment do I deny how precious this is.

[Kimberly]

So cute! My sister and I have always been the closest friends ever and I pray your boys will be too!

[Mom]

Isn't it wonderful when your children love each other?

I revel in how much my two girls adore each other and look out for each other. When they've been apart for an hour or more, they both leap for each other when they reunite. It's always such an amazing thing for me to watch because I was never close to my siblings.

[Shelly]

Very touching. Thank you for sharing. I have 4 boys of my own and there are times when I can see the love they have for each other, though they will never admit it.

[Jean Stockdale]

I suspect these guys share an unbreakable bond of brotherly love, which expresses itself through aggression and competitiion at this age! Blessings.

[angela]

I have two boys who will split hair at times but will stick together through thick and thin and i like you are so happy that God gave them a brother

[Shoebee]

When I started reading this, I thought that you were talking about my boys.

Brothers, there is just something about that bond.

[Jules]

Oh! That was wonderful. I have two boys (2 and 4) and feel the same joy when they actly tenderly towards each other. Growing up, my brothers were extremely close-- even when they hated each other. The same goes for my husband and his older brother. All I have ever wanted were sons, so I could witness that built in best-friendship as a mom.

Thanks.